If life were like a painting, then mine is currently the landscape I have hanging in my lounge.
I’m walking down a long avenue of copper beeches and all around me a soft wind rustles a smattering of blood-red leaves at my feet. It’s a cool day and the breeze is fresh though not yet icy. It is dusk. The deep shadows of Autumn cozying up to Winter deepen the dew on the fields to either side but Nature for all her beauty is failing to dazzle me. My landscape is in sepia. My eyes are dulled with the fatigue of constant busyness; housework, cooking and ceaseless parenting. I am meandering half-blind through the months of the year, beauty all around me but too tired to bear witness with my eyes to what I treasure most deeply in my heart.
And then with a cold electronic ping a text message erupts into my life, like a hot slap around my face, and I wake suddenly from a stupor bordering on drudgery. My dear friend (L)’s husband has a tumour. And it’s malignant.
Folds of tiredness fall from my face as shock knocks me from side to side like a fish gasping for breath on a sandy shore. I am stopped in my tracks and looking bewildered all around me as the vast avenue of my life, that has thus far stretched endlessly before me, is brought back to life with all the colour and vibrancy of a child’s first painting. My knees find the floor and before I can finish a reply I am mouthing the words of a childhood prayer.
Miles lie between me and my friend but her faith and mine are like two thick ropes spanning a void and I know that the best I can do now – and will ever be able to do – will be to pray.
I am throwing her my feeble rope though I know her own is made of steel. Sure enough, when I finally get to speak to her I am left breathless and in tears at her peaceful acceptance of this change. She speaks hopefully of how God has reminded her of all that is wonderful in her life. My own ingratitude is exposed and, like the sudden silence that follows the cessation of a background noise, I realise how much I have been taking for granted.
L’s life is a work of art, the outpouring of love. I imagine it as an alpine meadow, vibrant and fresh, life in abundance on a mountain ledge, so overflowing with vitality under the shadow of illness that it has startled my own painting back into Technicolor.